Making Peace With Yourself
I was struck by the proverbial lightning bolt. It clearly wasn’t about how beautiful the rest of the world finds you, how perfect your features are, or how young, rich or famous you are. After all, if those gorgeous celebrities felt dissatisfied with their famous faces reflecting back at them, what hope could I have?
How do we make peace with our reflection? How can we unlearn the harshness, and replace it with the kindness we would naturally and simply offer to a child, or a stranger? It makes them glow and soften with joy and pleasure, so they appear more beautiful, and it has the same effect on us.
So it’s Valentine’s Day, and you’re hoping to receive a love letter. One that acknowledges your strengths and your weaknesses and promises to love and accept you for both, that honors your joys and your sorrows, and lets them both be okay, that recognizes the difficulties you have overcome and offers you compassion for the ones with which you still struggle. I have a radical suggestion for you: write it yourself. It can be ten words, or ten pages. Write it out, read it aloud. To yourself, in the mirror. You deserve love. You deserve kindness. Happy Valentine’s Day.
“You, yourself, as much as anybody else in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” ~Buddha